Posted by Rebecca H

Program Host	Chapter
Host Region and Chapter	Cotton States MUSIC CITY BBG
Program Type	Education Judaic Leadership Member-in-Training (MIT) Membership Mind / Body / Attitude (MBA) New Member Convention Other Recruitment/Outreach Retention Separates Shabbat Sisterhood Social Women's Issues
Time Required	Less then 2 hours
Target Population(s)	Girls (BBG) Members-in-Training Teen Leaders Freshmen Sophomores Juniors Seniors
Folds Targeted	Jewish Heritage Creativity Recreation Sisterhood
People Participating	30-60

Program Summary:

A way to explore choices we make in everyday life, and to figure out the consequences of them through a fun game with your fellow BBG's!

Full Description:

Set Up: Each Board member ( and a few additional members) will receive a slip of paper with one of the scenarios on it. This will be one station, and then the participants of the game moves to the next station depending on their choices.

At the very last station, wherever members end up, a discussion will be held about making the choices in everyday life, as a teenager and a BBG.

Also, the reason we thought this program was appropriate for our kick-off programs was because we wanted to prove ourselves as a strong organization and because it was a great learning opportunity for all new members. We felt it was important to discuss making choices because that is something that comes up in everyday life, and learning about it in a BBG program brings us all closer as a chapter.

Game of Life

**Be honest, no ones judging**

Scenario: It’s a Friday night, erev Rosh Hashana. Your best friend just invited you to the biggest kickoff party of the year after the football game. You know that every Rosh Hashana you go to services and dinner with your family, but now that you are in high school you have a little bit more of a choice. You can choose to go to the Party or Services. If you want to go to the party, go over to Leah Caplan. If you feel like attending services, head over to Aviva.

Leah Caplan: Welcome to THE party of the year. You just got into a fight with your mom because she says your outfit is too revealing. You have a choice, you can either listen to your mom and change into the hideous outfit she picked out, or you can put a sweater and leggings on and change when you get there. If you change when you get to the party, go to Jenna, if you decide to listen to your mom and dress what she says is appropriate, go over to Lexi.

Aviva: You sat through services, but thankfully, the cutest guy in your Hebrew school class sits next to you. You feel the sparks flying and you A) don’t see what’s wrong with it (Rebecca), or B) decided to keep your holy on and stay in services (Laura); you can always meet up later!

Jenna: You have your change the second you get to the party, and everything seems just fine. You just see that one of your really good friends is here, and you realize she needs to get home. You don’t know if you should call her parents because then they will know if she was at the party, or drive home without parents consent.
Call – Sarah Wagner
Drive – Whitney

Lexi: You kept on the clothes and you’re pretty upset about it, but are trying to decide if its worth staying here. None of your friends are here, but you are sure something exciting is about to happen.  If you go home, head over to Kayla Ducklo, if you stay – Jodie.

Rebecca: You start kissing the cutest boy in the rabbis office, but you can def tell he wants some more. He offers you to ditch services and take a ride in his brand new SUV, or you continue kissing and stay at the synagogue.  
Leave: Kayla J
Stay: Ariel

Laura: You are mentioned as a leader in your Jewish community, which looks awesome on your college apps, but you are so hungry and want some gurb. Do you take food from the kitchen, or wait for momma’s home cooking
Kitchen: Kathleen
Wait it out: Mara

Sarah Wagner: You call the parents to pick her up and decide to go home with her so you feel the satisfaction of being a good friend. On Monday, when you get to school, you find out that the party was a total bomb once you left and wasn’t worth staying. You helped out a friend, but your parents found out you changed your clothes, when they said to cover up. They were proud of you for calling your friends parents and doing the right thing. Punishment was limited.

Whitney: You are driving your friend home, and you get pulled over. You are driving over the speed limit, and passed curfew. Basically, you are screwed.

Jodie: The party was fun for you because you made some new friends. But, pictures of you are now all over facebook and your mother gets the wrong idea. You try to explain it to her, but she argues you were there in the first place. You get a minor grounding.

Kayla Ducklo: You came home a little after your curfew, but parents are glad you didn’t do anything. They punish you for being late, but hope this party was a learning experience.

Kayla Jacobs: You are having lots of fun with the cute boy, when the Rabbi comes into his office because he forgot a part of his sermon. You are totally embarrassed and word is spreading rapidly. You and the guy never talk again, especially at services. Mother is livid.

Ariel: You realized this should probably not be happening so you end things. At first the guy is mad and spreads a rumor about you. The next week is pretty bad, but after he comes to his senses, apologizes and asks you out on a date.

Kathleen: The service has been going on forever, and you take some food from a bin in the Kitchen. Later, you come back to work at room at the inn for the homeless, and realized you took food from them. You feel bad, but no one really knows.

Mara: You wait for the most delicious home made meal of your life and get to hang out with the cousins you haven’ talked to in forever. They invite you to the Hannah Montana concert with them and you become Miley Cyrus’ best friend and go to all the hot Hollywood events (with the jonas brothers!). You live happily ever afterrrrrr.

Short discussion about making choices in high school and how we have to be careful about what we do and how we portray ourselves.

Discussion Questions: (answered in groups)
1)    How did you like the game?
2)    Have you ever had to make decisions like these before?
3)    Do ever feel pressured into doing things you are not comfortable in doing?
4)    Do you feel judged more by guys or by girls? Why?
5)    Why is it important to watch how you act and what choices you make in High School?

Submitter's Suggestions:

Applying the questions to people, can be difficult, but I suggest you write up a map of where people have the option of going, and making sure you have a person at each station.

P.S. the scenarios can be adjust for the chapter, and the season.

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